A MAN AND A WOMAN



She had put the breakfast plates in the dishwasher, rinsed the cups and racked them above the plates, and was dropping the spoons and forks into the utensil rack on the dishwasher door when he hung up.  He was talking to Tom, a friend of theirs who was going through a nasty divorce, and she was listening, only half attending to her chores.  It was a spring-bright Saturday morning, and they were both home, intent on doing nothing in particular.  They had few days when they could hang around and do nothing in particular.  They thought of the day as a luxury, since they had so few of them.  She half worried that Tom wanted to come over, bringing his anguish with him, and rely on them for solace.  It wouldn’t be the first time.  Last Wednesday evening he had come, and they spent hours talking.  She was tired of it, and, though she felt for him, she wished it would end.  He suffered and she couldn’t stand it.  As she listened to her husband’s side of the conversation, she was hoping she wouldn’t hear, “Sure, Tom, sure, come on over, we’ll be here.”  She didn’t hear anything like it, though, and was relieved when he hung up. 
     “So?” she said.  “What’s up with Tom?”
     “He keeps going over it, running it through his mind, and the more he does that, the worse it makes him feel.  The problem is, he doesn’t understand it.  He can’t make Mona’s behavior seem rational.”
     “I don’t think it is rational.”
     “We don’t know it isn’t.  We only know Tom’s side of it.  Something drove her to what she did.”
     “If half of what Tom says is true, she’s loony.  If it’s all true, she’s worse than that.”
     “Look.  A woman doesn’t just wake up one morning, after ten years of marriage, and discover she hates her husband.  It has to be something that has been accumulating over the years.  Tom might not even know.”
     “Why are you making excuses for her?  Sometimes people do flip, you know.  And she didn’t merely flip.  She hates him.  Tom’s not the kind of guy one hates, or should hate, anyway.”
     He was sitting at the breakfast table across the kitchen from the sink, where she had been rinsing and stacking the plates and cups in the washer.  The frying pan was still on the stove.  She was leaning against the counter and glanced at it.  He saw she had forgotten it, got up from the table and brought it to the sink.  She stepped aside and let him wash it, stooping for the dishtowel hanging on a rack inside the cabinet door beside the dishwasher.  When he finished, she dried it and stowed it under the counter.  The sun rayed through the window, brightening the room, making it seem more cheerful than she felt.  Whether he was there or not, Tom and his anguish were intruding into their morning, and she resented it.  The beauty of a Saturday morning like this is that they had nothing planned.  Neither of them had to work that day, which didn’t happen often; no crises or family obligations loomed; nothing in the house or yard needed mending; they were free to follow their noses.  But he had that look on his face and she knew what it meant.  He wanted to talk about Tom and Mona. 
     “Let’s drive out to the nursery.  I like when you’re with me picking plants.  It makes the garden seem more ‘ours’ when it grows.”
     She wanted to get out of the house, now.  Get away from the troubles that absorbed him.  She wasn’t ready for what he said in response.
     “Do you think our marriage will last?”
     She wasn’t there yet.  Tom and Mona’s divorce hadn’t spilled into her own comfort zone.  She was surprised by his question.  Was he feeling anxious?  Unsettled by the apparent motivelessness of Mona’s hatred?  Like he might suddenly find himself where Tom is now?  She didn’t know what to say to reassure him without sounding dismissive or flippant.
     Caught up in her surprise by his question, she didn’t answer at first, so he asked again.  She put her hands on her hips and looked away from him.  The sunlight streaming through the window fell directly on her.
     “A thousand little things about you drive me crazy,” she said, turning toward him, trying to smile and hoping it didn’t seem obvious she was trying to smile.  “But none of them make me care for you the less.”  She wanted to add that it was the same for him and didn’t he see that?  But she was floored by his response.
     “Care for?  Care?  Not ‘love’ the less?”
     This was getting serious.  She didn’t want to delve into these feelings.  Not because she was afraid of what she’d find there but because they were too difficult to think about, no less talk about.  She didn’t doubt her love, but she doubted, really doubted that what love was for her was the same for him.  If they explored these feelings now, against the canvas of Tom and Mona’s divorce, against the strangeness of Mona’s newfound ill will toward Tom, he might make too much of their differences, might make those differences mean something they don’t.
     “Why are you quibbling about the word?  I mean ‘love.’  The first part of love is caring, isn’t it?”
     “I don’t know.  I guess so,” he responded, with that same look on his face. 
     A tension had risen in the moment, and she didn’t feel it lessen by his acquiescence.  So she put the question,
     “So you doubt that I love you?”
     “No, no,” he said, still thoughtful, still with that pondering look in his eyes.  “I don’t see anything like that happening to us.”
     “But one can never be sure, can one?” she said.  “Does being sure matter?  Many a woman, feeling sure, suddenly found her husband in love with some one else.”  She wanted to shift the ground a little, to make him know that their marriage depended as much on him as it did on her. 
     “For every crazy Mona there’s a philandering Tom.  I know that,” he said, getting her drift.
     “You’re wrong,” she said, smiling.  “For every crazy Mona there are five philandering Toms.”
     “Yeah,” he said.  “But our Tom is no philanderer.”
     “That’s one reason,” she said.
     “What do you mean?  Reason for what?” he asked, looking at her sceptically.  She leaped like that, taking something he said to someplace he couldn’t follow.
     “For why Mona is crazy.”
     “Oh,” he said, seeing her point.  “I’m not so sure.  Only a week ago she seemed so together.”
“That’s another reason.”
“More likely something happened and Tom’s not saying.” 
“You’re trying to make sense of something that might not make sense.  I believe Tom.  He is bewildered.  If anything he did drive her to that hatefulness, don’t you think he’d know?”
“You’re right, you’re right,” he said, shrugging his shoulders.
     “Do you want to go to the nursery?” she asked him, hoping he was ready to end this conversation.
     “Sure, why not?  It’s a beautiful morning,” he responded, not noticing the sigh of relief that came from her.  “I just can’t believe that Mona did those things for no reason.  It’s all so,” he paused trying to find the right word, and she interjected, “unpredictable?” 
     “Yes, that, but it’s not what I had in mind.  She forced him to do what he did.  Like she had it planned.  Then she took advantage of him.  It’s like he’s become a criminal.  The court issued an injunction to keep him away from the kids.  He can’t go within a thousand feet of them.  And she literally dispossessed him.” 
     He was breathless, almost.  She didn’t realize how bothered he was, how undermined he felt, by the whole affair.  The break between Mona and Tom came when she pushed the door on him as he was leaving for work in the morning, catching his foot between the door and the jamb, causing him to push back on the door to free himself.  She pretended he pushed so hard that she fell to the floor.  She had the kids ready to go and ushered them out of the house and fled with them to the police station.  From that moment on, he was marked.  And the worst part is what she made the kids believe—that he is dangerous, a menace to their lives.
     They both wore jeans and sweatshirts with sneakers on their feet.  He picked up the car keys from the counter by the door that opened into the garage.  But still he had that look on his face.  He paused once more and asked,
     “What makes a marriage last?”
     “You tell me,” she said, laughing.  “Why do you think I know any better than you?”
     “I think,” he said, as he reached for the doorknob, “it must be. . . .”   She pushed him through the door and he tripped quickly down the two steps to the cement floor of the garage.
     As he turned the key in the ignition he finished his thought, “It must be simply that people want it to.  When they’re passed that, there’s no help for it.”
     “Yes,” she said, “It’s called ‘love.’”
     They drove in silence to the nursery.  There were tables and tables of annuals and more of perennials.  The two of them wandered together up and down the aisles between the tables.  Occasionally, he stopped and picked something up and showed it to her.  Either she shook her head or held up the cardboard tray on which they stacked the things they liked.  When the tray became heavy, he took it.  When it was filled, they brought it to the register where they took another tray and continued walking the aisles.  The sun diffused through the opaque plexi roofing, and the air underneath was warm and humid.  The warmth and humidity made them perspire in their long-sleeved sweatshirts—the man and the woman.  The man and the woman with flowers for spring planting.

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